My ED medicine isn't working. What should I check?
ED medicine not helping as expected? Learn what to discuss with your prescriber, which details matter, and how to take pressure out of the next conversation.
The After Forty collectionsHealth and wellbeing after 40: for men
31 articles · Browse all topics
Clear words for questions about energy, exercise, friendship, sexual health and the connections that matter.
Explore this collection
No morning erection: should I be worried?
Not noticing morning erections can raise questions about sleep, hormones and health. Learn which patterns to mention and what one morning cannot tell you.
Can erection problems be a sign of heart trouble?
Erection changes can prompt a heart-health check, but they do not diagnose blocked arteries. Understand the connection, appointment questions and urgent signs.
I enjoy sex once we start. Why don't I want it beforehand?
Desire does not always arrive before closeness. Explore responsive desire, the difference between curiosity and pressure, and words to use with your partner.
My mood is better, but my sex life has changed
Sexual changes while taking antidepressants deserve attention. Learn how to describe them, discuss options with your prescriber and protect your mental health.
Is my evening drink affecting sleep and intimacy?
An evening drink can feel relaxing while complicating sleep and sex. Explore patterns, gentler changes and when cutting back calls for professional support.
☆ Featured
Intimacy after 40: a new chapter, not a closing one
Bodies change. So do relationships. There is room to discover what closeness means to you now.
☆ Featured
Erection changes after 40: what is going on?
Erections feel less reliable lately? Here is how to understand the change, talk about it, and get useful help.
Different levels of desire? Start with a conversation
You do not have to want the same things at the same time to listen to each other well.
Your sexual-health appointment: a little preparation goes a long way
A page of notes, a few questions, and permission to use your own words.
Closeness without a script: making room for what feels right
An invitation to rethink the small moments of connection, at your own pace.
Low sex drive after 40: a guide for men
Not feeling as interested in sex lately? You can explore what has changed without judging yourself or jumping to conclusions.
When your partner wants more sex than you do
A guide for men who feel caught between caring about their partner and wanting less sex. Start with honest words and less pressure.
When worries about penis size take over the moment
If comparison keeps interrupting intimacy, explore the worry, talk honestly, and learn when support could help.
Dating again after divorce: finding your confidence as a man
Start dating at a pace that fits your life, with room for uncertainty, honest expectations and time to yourself.
When you can get an erection but struggle to orgasm
Understand the difference between erections, orgasm and ejaculation, and prepare a useful conversation about what has changed.
Feeling like roommates: how to tell your partner you miss closeness
When daily life works but connection feels distant, name what you miss and begin a conversation without blame.
I miss being touched, but I don't want casual sex
Wanting affection does not mean you have to want a hookup or a relationship. Explore the kind of connection you actually miss.
Wanting closeness after losing a partner
There can be room for grief, affection and uncertainty at the same time. Explore what feels welcome without imposing a timetable.
How to ask a new partner about STI testing
Make testing a shared health conversation, understand the limits of results, and keep your boundaries clear.
Dating with herpes: starting the conversation
Prepare an honest conversation about herpes, leave room for questions, and describe risk without promises or shame.
We have good sex. Why doesn't the relationship feel right?
Strong attraction can coexist with unanswered relationship questions. Look at everyday experiences and talk about what you each want.
Asking for what you enjoy with a partner
Find simple words for preferences, requests and boundaries, with room for both people to answer honestly.
I'm tired all the time. Is this really just getting older?
Tired all the time after 40? Explore questions about sleep, symptoms and daily pressures, plus practical ways to prepare for a useful healthcare conversation.
Why do workouts leave me sore for days now?
Workouts leaving you sore for days? Review your routine, understand when pain needs attention, and find questions to help make training manageable after 40.
My life looks fine. Why do I feel so lonely?
Life looks fine but feels lonely? Explore ways to reconnect with old friends, meet people regularly and talk honestly about the company you miss after 40.
Can we sleep separately and still feel close?
Could separate beds help you sleep without losing closeness? Explore how to discuss worries, agree on a fair arrangement and recognize sleep concerns worth checking.
I want to help my ageing parent, but I'm stretched too thin.
Caring for an ageing parent while juggling your own life? Make the workload visible, ask for specific help and discuss realistic limits with family and care teams.
The kids have left home. What do I want my days to look like now?
The kids have left home. Explore changing routines, staying in touch, making time for your interests and talking about what you want this next stage to include.
Testosterone is back in the headlines. What actually changed?
Confused by testosterone headlines? Understand the label announcements, what the research can tell you, and questions to bring to a healthcare appointment.
Can sleep and exercise affect inflammation as we age?
Can sleep and exercise affect inflammation as we age? Explore a new study, its limits and practical questions about habits that fit your health and daily life.